Mr. and Mrs. Yeah-but have a tendency to drive me crazy. It’s a short trip, I know, but more and more often when I encounter them I want to run screaming for asylum.
In my work as a life coach, a Law of Attraction Workshop leader, an editor, and also a friend, I sometimes encounter an individual with a great deal of resistance to the helpful suggestions I offer. These individuals pretend to go along with what I’m saying, but instead of keeping an open mind to what’s being said, they immediately throw up a brick wall the size of Nebraska.
“Yeah, but I can’t afford it…” “Yeah, but I don’t have the time…” “Yeah, but I don’t know where to start…” “Yeah, but I’ve got a husband and kids to take care of…” “Yeah, but this isn’t a good time…” Yeah, but my plate is pretty full right now…” “Yeah, but I don’t have the education for it…” Yeah, but… Yeah, but… Yeah but….
The word “Yeah” is just fine, all by itself. But when it’s followed by the word “but,” all hell breaks loose. “But” in the middle of a sentence negates everything preceding it. “I’d like to go out with you, but…” “That’s a nice dress, but…” “I’d like to help you, but…”
Instead of hedging issues, dodging commitments, being wish-washy and indecisive, here’s a novel concept: Just say “yes!”
In my experience, saying a resounding “yes” to life and its varied opportunities makes for far fewer regrets and far more meaningful and direct communication. And sometimes, when necessary, saying “no” is okay, too. Just don’t try to soften it up by pretending you’re sorry.
Strive to retire the “Yeah-buts.” They aren’t fooling anyone.